As a professional psychic, I find that love and relationships is one of the most frequent questions asked by clients. “Is s/he the one for me?”, “Should I stay or should I go?” and “Does this relationship really have potential?” are questions I often get in my practice.
In Find Your Happily Ever After, psychic Tiffany Johnson provides a very real, down-to-earth look at the advice that she gives to her clients during relationship readings. As I read through this book, I saw a lot of good information that I’ve either passed along to my own clients or come to understand in my own life.
The presentation is simple and clear, which I’m a fan of. There isn’t any New Age feel to the work; for me, a journalist or a counselor could have written it. I was really pleased about this, because often, books written by psychics want to shoot for that “otherworldly” quality that makes them downright annoying. I was glad Johnson’s writing style for the book was practical and sensible. It’s good to find a psychic who organizes well, too; the table of contents is a good way to find what you’re looking for at a given stage in a relationship.
One of my favorite parts of the book was the very beginning of chapter 9, entitled “Change”. I liked it so much because it’s a maxim that I have known for some time and agree with totally: “Don’t try to change anyone into who you think they should be. It doesn’t work. Pushing someone to change only creates discontent and resentment. It will never work out well.” In my own practice I often hear, “I wish s/he would be more [INSERT DESIRE HERE].” It’s exactly the same thing. In short, people have to want to change on their own.
I also liked when Johnson talked about “deal breakers” in chapter 4. This is a term I’ve used for a while in relationship readings and they’re very important. Basically, you have to know where you stand on different issues and decide what you can live with and what you can’t. Some of the topics she mentions include religion and morality, politics, and sexuality, among others. You’ve got to be up front and honest with yourself and any potential partner for things to have a firm foundation. “Cheating” is one of the parts that can get thorny for couples. What constitutes cheating for you may not for your partner. I’ve heard the term “emotional cheating” thrown around quite a bit, and it can be just as damaging as sexual infidelity, and in some cases, more so.
Bottom line: You’ll really have to know what your “deal breakers” are, and if you can’t live with it, then it’s time to move on. By the way, the author follows up on this important topic in Chapter 19, “If You Think They Are Cheating”, which is often when people seek out psychics, interestingly enough.
I really enjoyed this book! It’s a quick read, but Johnson provides solid, intelligent relationship advice at a level that regular people can understand and appreciate.
~review by John Marani
Author: Tiffany Johnson